Written by: Pana •
June 4, 2009
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Have you ever been caught in the act of (NOT) Cheating? Have you ever been accused of cheating on your mate but you did not do anything? Did you ever drop a one liner flirting remark that was taken the wrong way? Have you sent or received that racy email? Is it jealousy that make us that way or insecurity? Have you ever accused someone of cheating on you? I know that sometimes it is hard to know if your mates intentions were to actually cheat or not. Is trust really an issue with a spouse that has cheated before? Have you had a spouse cheat on you or have you cheated on your spouse and got caught? I know that trust should be a factor in a Monogamous relationship, but when you catch your mate flirting or talking to another person it seems disrespectful and hurtful to your relationship. Your spouse is not honoring your bond by flirting with another person. Have you trusted your spouse and stood behind them even after they cheated on you and still made excuses for them? Have any new letters, emails, or phone calls from people you haven’t heard your spouse talk about before begun to surface in their life? This is one sign. Do you believe that flirting is innocent and that it should not be a jealousy issue with the person that has accused you of cheating and you were not? If you are in a committed relationship, Do you think that flirting is off limits regardless of if it was a fantasy or innocent in nature? I have been accused of cheating when someone has engaged me in a conversation. Where do we draw the line? Innocent flirting or just chatting about a topic can actually be innocent at times. We have all engaged in a conversation that was of a questionable nature, but who is to say that its cheating? Is it right to accuse your mate of cheating without proof or them admitting to the crime? If you have ever been caught in the act of ( NOT) cheating, How did it make you feel?
I personally dont think a lil innocent flirting is cheating if its done in respectable context,it just could be that person nature,speaking from my own opinion i see most people do so without even noticing there flirting or at lease i think they dont notice…But to me cheating is being sexually,mentally,spiritually connected in more of a exclusive intimate way with someone else other than there chosen partners,its just like a friendship just on another level you aint going to be more loyal to someone you just met off the humble oppose to someone who you knew was by your side reguardless off since the sandbox days.
What we can not be human? As men and women there is the natural attraction. The hunger lives inside of all of us, like it or not. It is not about cheating but about creating realtionships that feel good. I am not saying cheat but live.
Well..here’s my answer…FCUK it…because engaging in conversation is just that. IF there are insecurities within 1 partner this is a failed situation. Innocent flirting is fine but each individual has to draw a personal line..”um, let me chill with talking to this dude..he is so taking this somewhere else..Imma just fallback on this 1 buddy”