I would like to discuss about how being in the wrong relationship can effect your life mentally and spiritually. As usual when I speak of relationships I mean all family, friendship and intimacy. As I began my 30’s some time ago I realized there is no point in continuing relationships that become stagnant. If we are not building and growing then what is the point? If you’re around just to be around I’m going to cut you off. If you aren’t giving me anything I can feel, happiness, consistency, and support some people merely want to be within reach, and be able to contact you when ever it suites them.Those types of people are energy suckers they might not even know it but, I find it interesting that they always contact you when you are happy out of the blue a selfish deed. I keep the people around that adds to my happiness and weed out the bad apples. It’s a simple process. Don’t “hey stranger” text me, it most likely won’t get thru to me anyhow.
Let’s get one thing straight I don’t hold on to grudges, I get annoyed, then just let people go (after communicating my needs and waiting for necessary adjustments) After a certain point, my energy is no longer with you. I love hard and I care, a lot. I will not allow that to be taken for granted anymore, thus protecting my energy is key. I may seem cold, but if you really want my affection, it’s there, put in the work. The “I love you, but I desire to be a hoe too” is old and played out. It doesn’t operate that way. As you get older you want to build a life with people that you love. You want to create a family with your partner. People usually pick the easy way out because love can be hard. It takes maturity and communication to sustain healthy relationships. Most get in a relationship and think you’re missing out on single life (signs that you are not mature enough to be in one) or You’re single but miss being in a relationship. (Catch 22). I always let people know where they stand in my spirit. When dating I will let you know if you’re wasting your time. (People can be blind to what’s right in front of them because of the timing. Timing is everything however, doesn’t mean you have to wait though.) What’s meant to be, will be yours. What people do not understand is that you have to have a certain mindset and level of maturity to be able to deal with other people emotions and mentality. Real Happiness starts with your relationship with yourself. That is why I say “I want people that will COMPLETE my happiness” I do not say “will MAKE me happy” I know I am in charge of my happiness and my spirit. Satisfaction with one’s self comes from being content with what IS not what could have would have should have. People will push love right away, then start to disappear slowly out of your life, get inconsistent, play games, and so on and it’s immature but some people get scared and won’t communicate. Relationships can be grand Especially, if someone shares their fear with me that is courageous, it’s like wow, you feel comfortable to tell me that is what building relationships are all about these moments get overlooked because of immaturity and selfishness. Sometimes you met individuals and you are not in the same place in life, please understand love won’t always wait for you. Sometimes love is loving yourself enough to recognize when to walk away from unhealthy relationships and situations. It is ok to know your worth and show people what life is like without you being a part of it. After contemplation, maybe they will come to their senses and see what value you bring to their life. Some are lonely longing for acceptance, filling a void doing selfish things and acting in a destructive manner. I have discovered that we are never lonely for a person or a thing. We are simply seeking an experience we believe we cannot have for whatever reason. I want you to stand up for your inner peace refuse to be convinced by hidden ulterior motives, meditate on your life path and what is beneficial for your soul. What do you feed your spirit? What stimulates you? Are you conveying your needs? Sometimes it is best we do not get what we desire. I am only stating my opinion on situations, doesn’t necessarily mean, that’s what I’m going through right at this moment. I just thought I would share from my past experience and where I went awry or have been wronged. I would love to hear your thoughts below…..
Ciao Bella,
Pana
